I’ve been a mom now for over 4 years. Ryley turned 4 this past February and it was bitter sweet. Its amazing and sometimes sad to watch your kids grow up. I love watching her and Avery grow but at the same time I miss them when they were babies. I wonder if Im doing a good job as a mom, if they are getting the right things to eat and if they watch too much TV. With so much to worry about the one that is hardly ever on my mind is my pre-baby body.
I’m not sure were this notion came about that we should ever have our pre-baby bodies back. My body will never be pre-baby. And I’m ok with that. I have two beautiful children that have literally shaped me both mentally and physically. And you know what? I’m pretty sure they don’t care about what my body looked like before them anyways. All they know is mommas body gives them hugs, piggyback rides, boat rides and I sometimes double as a chair. My old body was not capable of any of those things until they were born because they were not here.
And yes I have some weight I could lose. I don’t blame those few extra pounds on my kids. Its from poor food choices and lack of exercise. Plain and simple. I would never point the finger at them as my reason for being big. Heck, if I could keep up with them Im sure Id be smaller. I’m just tired of women worrying about their pre-baby bodies. Your body will not ever be the same again. And that’s ok, because its a work of beauty. We carried our babies for 9 months and with that we stretched and grew. Our babies molded our bodies from the inside out! Things aren’t in the right places anymore and things don’t sit as high. [Ahem.] But our bodies nourished these little babies and continue to do so every day.
I wont ever have my high school body, or my pre-wedding body or even my pre-baby body. My body has and will continue to change every single day. Every day. I feel like worrying about having a body from the past is an unattainable goal. I can either choose to focus on the past or savor the present with my kids in my current [and very much loved] body. I choose the present.
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Sheena Hicks says
Awwwwwww Kelley:-) I’m so proud of you!!!! I love this post! My stomach will NEVER look the same again, but that’s ok. I call my stretch marks my “warrior marks.” Lol. They are a reminder every time I look in the mirror of the the great challenges I have overcome and the 2 little blessings in my life. I love my babies and my marks! Lol. You are so right, I won’t have my high school body again either. I’m not in high school anymore! My body has been through 13 years of life since graduating high school (and I REALLY like bacon lol)! We get so caught up in comparing ourselves to others that we sometimes forget to appreciate who God has created us to be. We are ALL beautiful we just look different. We can’t just accept what we are told is the standard of beauty and perfection, but embrace everyone in their own beautiful way:-)
Go mama! And you are so so right, God created us and we are all beautiful. Ps.. I really like bacon too! And pasta.. and bread. Ha!
Barb @ A Life in Balance says
I love that you wrote this. As a mom of 5 now 46 years old, I still struggle with seeing the real me and appreciating the fact that my body carried 5 babies. The truth is my body has changed, and age is changing it too. I need to be in the best health I can be at this point in time because this is who I am now.
I agree with you. Its about health and not size. We need to be in the best health possible for our kids. Thanks for stopping by Barb!
Such a great blog! I need to bookmark it to read again and again!
Aww! Thanks so much Kristen! 🙂