This weeks question:
What I know now that I didnt pre-baby!
Wow, there are so many things that I have learned since becoming a mommy…. probably the most important thing that I know now is how difficult it is to be a mom. I was anticipating everything to just fall into place and I would know exactly what to do. The first few weeks were like that because all my son did was sleep… but then he turned into a fussy monster and I had a hard time getting everything accomplished while keeping him happy (Thank God for the Moby Wrap). I also learned that it’s not always possible to get your baby to behave while in public…and that doesn’t make you a bad mommy. Oh, also I now know that the world isn’t going to end if your house isn’t perfectly cleaned!
that I can do anything I put my mind to, I can cope with things I never dreamed I would have to. Now I just need the time to do all those things!
Oh my goodness. Ummm…everything. I didn’t know anything before I had children. Probably the most important thing is: No mother is perfect, no kid is perfect, and we are all just learning as we go. No need to compare myself and my children to other mom’s and other kids. It’s so easy to judge…until you’ve been there yourself and realize how difficult it all is.
I wish I knew to trust my gut the way I do now. Everyone has advice and a way
to parent that is “right.” Listen to all of it and do what is right for you, your family, and your child. I went through a lot of feeling like I was doing it wrong or being a bad mom. I wish I trusted myself when I first had Emma the way I do now.
to parent that is “right.” Listen to all of it and do what is right for you, your family, and your child. I went through a lot of feeling like I was doing it wrong or being a bad mom. I wish I trusted myself when I first had Emma the way I do now.
What I didn’t know before my husband and I had our first is how parenthood can dominate a marriage! Don’t get me wrong…we definitely “signed up for this” and want our darling children…but we really have to make a point at finding time for each other and keeping our relationship a priority!
That sweating over the small stuff no longer matters ! 🙂
To never say never, ha! All those things I always said I’d never do “when I was a mom” PUH-LEASE (wink wink).
Before I had children, I didn’t know how much my patience would be tested. Sure, I didn’t think it would all be super easy but, I had no idea how HARD parenting can be. Even if someone would have told me that parenting can test you and be super challenging, I don’t think I would’ve really understood. On the flip side, know one can explain to you how much you are going to LOVE your children. We all knew that our babies were going to be amazing but, I couldn’t have dreamed up more wonderful children. I am so blessed.
I learned that many of the things I had thought I would do as a parent (make own baby food, use only cloth diapers, exclusive breastfeeding, etc.) were ideals that in my situation I was unable to live up to. I learned that I needed to do the best I could, but not to sacrifice the needs of the baby in my arms to uphold my ideals, and to be okay with that. My baby was VERY high need and required almost constant holding. He needed my arms more than the home pureed foods I would have been feeding him, or the extra loads of laundry if I were to cloth diaper more than half time. I couldn’t produce enough milk myself so I had to learn that it was not a failure to supplement. It wasn’t the picture perfect babyhood I had envisioned, but my time with him was still precious, and I’ve learned that not very much of parenthood is going to be picture perfect, but it that doesn’t mean he won’t have a very good childhood.
I didn’t know that I could love the eighth child as much as the first and that there’s an art to changing a baby boy’s diaper!
How precious my me time was. Oh, and that having someone else’s snot on me (particularly my child’s) won’t kill me. 🙂
I can be super selfish and short-tempered.
I know quite a few childhood songs that I didn’t think I remembered.
Children (especially toddlers) really do watch your every move.
There are a lot of celebrities that make an appearance on Sesame Street.
And most importantly, the truth behind 2 Corinthians 12:9 and Philippians 4:13 😉
I know quite a few childhood songs that I didn’t think I remembered.
Children (especially toddlers) really do watch your every move.
There are a lot of celebrities that make an appearance on Sesame Street.
And most importantly, the truth behind 2 Corinthians 12:9 and Philippians 4:13 😉
The biggest thing I didn’t know pre-child was about disciplining! I always said I would never be a Mom that yelled, but now after having kids its a different ball game for me. I try not to yell at first, but after having to remind and ask over and over my voice tends to get louder and louder! This is something I really need to work on!!
Another thing is, its OK to have toys laying around the house, finger prints on the glass door, and dirt on the floor. I used to be a neat freak. Everything had to be in its place and clean. Now I am definitely getting more lax in this area. The house will never be ask clean as I would like it to be for more then 5 minutes. Kids need to be kids and its ok to leave the dishes for another time or vacuuming. You will never get this moment back so its OK to go play with them and have a little bit of a dirty house!!!
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MiMi says
Here's what I DON'T know…modesty or shame. After the delivery room, there is none.
~ Tami says
You will also never pee alone again. No privacy, I tell ya', never!
Tami @ Curb Alert!
No(dot dot)el says
I loved this idea. What a great way to hear the real deal from momma's who are in the thick of it. Nothing can ever prepare you for how life changing it is to become a mother, but hearing from other momma's who are honest and open about the trials and tribulations, AS well AS the JOYS, that's good stuff!! Oh hi, I'm new here. Found you through the May follow link up. Happy to be your newest member.
April says
I love this post. It's so real and shows that motherhood looks as different as each mother looks. We just have to do our best and know that our children are worth our very best. Not someone else's best, OUR best, which will always be good enough. 🙂
Mrs. Baker says
i love this! great idea!!
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